Please help me with this wedding drama?

I read a lot of the answers and one of them really pissed me off. It does not matter if you can afford to pay the $175 for your meal or not. The people that are getting married should pay for everything. If the want a three course meal then they should pay for it. Asking for donations to pay the church is down right tacky. This whole thing sounds like a mess. My husband would not even have to tell me to back out cause once I got that email I would have replied thanks but no thanks, wish you the best. The called C and told her I am sorry but I can not do this.